𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝘂𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗣𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲

Communication is not just about WHAT we say but, more importantly, about WHERE we speak from. Are we connected to our role and position? Or are we reacting from frustration, insecurity, or an unclear place within the system? 

With Communicating with Respect (CmR), we work with the conceptual idea of the authentic place: the position from which you observe and act within a team, organization, or family system. It is not a static place but a *lived and felt* position. This concept is the foundation of our approach and the starting point of all our training programs and workshops. 

Why is the Authentic Place so Important? 
Every organization, team, and family is a system where each person has a place with corresponding responsibilities. But do we truly take our place? Or do we remain stuck in assumptions, expectations, and unspoken frustrations? 

Systemic work teaches us that a clearly assumed place is essential for balance and effective collaboration. When someone is not in their rightful place—or when that place is unclear—misunderstandings, tensions, and unnecessary energy drains arise. 

A few examples: 
• A parent can be physically present but not act as a parent. 
• A leader may hold a position but fail to take leadership. 
• A team member may perform tasks but not feel responsible. 

Being responsible is different from merely acting responsible. 

When we communicate from an unclear or uncertain place, it affects not only ourselves but also the team or organizational dynamics. This can lead to situations where: 

P𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗱 –"That’s not my job." 
𝗨𝗻𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗽𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗰𝗰𝘂𝗿𝘀 – "I thought you were going to do it..." 
𝗠𝗶𝘀𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 – "Shouldn't that have been obvious to everyone?" 

Communicating with Respect (CmR) 
CmR is about clarity, connection, and taking responsibility** for your own communication. 

Respect means truly seeing the other person. This requires presence, empathy, and an open attitude. But respect starts with self-respect: those who stand in their own place can respect others. 

Authentic communication means being connected with yourself, the other person, and your message. When communication is not authentic, it often feels artificial or confusing. People do not only respond to words but primarily to the *energy* and *intention* behind a message. This is the relational layer or the underlying current of communication. 

In a team where everyone fully assumes their place, communication flows more smoothly and with less noise.